Emotional purity dating
Once you have this insight, you will be better equipped to understand your sisters, friends, or girlfriends, and thus be able to help them along their paths to holiness. I’m not talking about the daydreaming which includes pairing your favorite kids names with your latest crush’s last name, I’m talking about the fleeting, wistful thoughts which enter into your mind as you come into contact with various guys throughout the day- thoughts which are not bad, but which can escalate into a problem when dwelled upon. You go to see a movie with friends, and as the handsome actor comes on screen, you find yourself wondering how old he is, whether or not he has a girlfriend, and what your chances are of becoming that girlfriend.
Christian singles often wear their hearts on their sleeves, which can lead to intense, emotionally intimate, male-female "friendships" with no commitment to pursuing marriage.Today I’m following up by discussing what I learned from Joshua Harris.I don’t own a copy of Harris’ book at the moment, but given that this post is about the almost immediately after it came out.Rather, for him courtship is “dating with a purpose.” In other words, you shouldn’t start a relationship with someone unless you are actually ready to get married and think the person in question is likely the one you want to marry.
Harris condemns “recreational dating” in no uncertain terms.
Here are four ways I believe purity can become a problem. But as the years went on, and I became more and more of a minority, I began to view my purity as a badge of honor — possibly even something I did better than others.