Dating tips for fat girls
If you are fat like me, or used to be like some other lucky ex-members of our club who probably bribed the weighing scale to flash skinny, you know the forever-itch to lose weight. Shedding those extra pounds so we don’t have to hide in the shadows, be whisked to dorm rooms and apartments under the cover of night, and then, sent right back in the wee hours of the morning lest some frat bro or roommate belittle the conquest of our douchebag date, used to be our ONLY wish in life. No, I am not ranting – coz I myself find the bitter ‘’ kind of token consolatory refrains mean and derogatory! But there is an undeniable stigma attached to dating a fat girl – like we can be ‘oodles’ of fun to pick for a night but never worthy of being on your arm on date nights or introduced to your friends, much less grace wedding pictures! Or even if you do, you have the know-how for dating one.
I am also done dating the tonnes of others who’d deny that I am fat and insist that I am beautiful! To the men – Dating a fat girl may not fall under your quintessential notion of ‘achievement.’ But who made skinny girls queens of the world anyway!
This message didn’t fall on deaf ears and I know, I am not alone.
Many women and men out there have grown up with similar messaging from the ones they love.
Sure, dating a skinny chick may seem like something to brag about – but both you and I know that REAL relationships need more than plain vital stats. 😉 Today, I will answer the big, fat ‘WHY’ about dating fat girls.
Not because this is my written plea for dates (I am happily dating a man who tells me I am fat beautiful, and loves all the inches spilling my outsides), but because some of you might be making my fellow sisters struggle with the same sort of body image issues I had in the beginning. Goodbye calorie counting Whether you are eyeing the pot roast or want a draft beer, we aren’t counting calories – not even yours.
Now we could dwell on the fact that these various winners are not gym-sculpted Adonnises themselves, but instead I want to focus on the positive and work on people’s lives instead of trying to stroke the hate-boner.
Besides, the best revenge is living well and there’s nothing quite like seeing the underdog succeed despite all of his or her disadvantages. The cognitive dissonance can make people’s heads explode.
As an overweight child my mother taught me year after year and one crash diet after another that fat equaled ugly.
But being large and in charge doesn’t mean that you’re doomed to a life of being forever alone; in fact, you may find that you have far more options for finding love, sex and happiness than you’d ever believe possible. There are plenty of notable examples out there if you look around. Seth Rogan is no Abercrombie and Fitch model but he’s also happily married.
Large dudes will frequently lament that their size automatically disqualifies them from dating – they believe that there is simply no way a woman could possibly like somebody who’s body isn’t rippled and shiny like a buttered ear of corn. Kevin Smith, for all of his fashion sins that I will get into in a second, is happily married with a lovely wife and daughter. It’s easy to forget this when the TV and magazines are showing you nothing but image after image of cut, veiny men with swimmers builds with women draped all over them like fur stoles, but women actually like a far wider range of body types than we’d think.
Guys looking for tips on dating a plus-sized woman should remember immediately that their girl is like every other woman out there: she wants to feel special.
Accept her for the beautiful person she is, and treat her with unshakeable confidence that she is the woman you want. It would simply be a ridiculous notion and careless of me.