Dating men with daughters
“He’s a director,” I told my friend L., absently fiddling with the lighter in my hand. We went to Club 33 at Disneyland and he treated me to couples massages and pool time at the Four Seasons spa. I was starting to wonder what our relationship would look like when it became a story for four, instead of two. He gave me tennis lessons and I dragged him to yoga class. But my favorite thing was always cuddling on the couch and talking. It’s very common for guys with kids to write in their OKCupid profiles: “My kids come first,” or “My daughter is the center of my world! You want a potential mate to know that your life includes the giant presence of a kid or four. Plus, if you’ve gone through divorce or another crisis that landed you as a single parent, you are no doubt concerned about giving your kids extra care and sense of security. But it is even trickier if one or both of the parents put the kids before their partner.
If you’re a 20- to 35-year-old woman without any children I caution you against dating a man with kids. We figured flashing lights and photo booths, prizes and pinball, loud noises and lots of other kids would be a good distraction from “Dad has a girlfriend,” which also means: “Mom and Dad are not getting back together.” I normally Internet stalk my online dating connections pretty thoroughly. We decided to wait six months before my first meeting with his girls: a trip to the arcade at Castle Park in Sherman Oaks.Knowing What You’re Getting Into Communicating with the Father from the Start of Your Relationship Dealing with the Mother Easing Yourself into the Child's Life Community Q&A You're dating a man and he has children.
These days it's becoming more and more common for someone to enter a relationship with children from a previous marriage. A strong relationship provides security for your children and demonstrates how a loving, respectful partnership should be. After all, they can be so demanding — not to mention fulfilling.